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💡 如果你不相信自己有人生目标，那你可能也不会相信我说的话。即便如此，花20分钟去尝试一下又有什么风险呢？
文章高亮观点：
- 如果你想发现自己生命中真正的目标，当务之急先清空你的头脑，摒弃所有被灌输的错误理念（包括你可能毫无目标的想法）。
- 不断地在纸上写下答案，直到你发现某个答案让你感动到落泪。这就是你的人生目标。
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如何找到自己真正的人生目标？我指的不是你的工作、日常职责，甚至不是你的长期目标。我说的是你存在于世的真正原因——你存在的根本缘由。
或许你自认为是个虚无主义者，不认为人生有特定的目标或意义。没关系，怀疑自己有目标并不妨碍你去发现它，正如不相信重力的存在，并不会让你免于跌倒一样。
不相信只会让这个过程变得更长，如果你是这样的人，不妨将这篇博文标题中的数字20改为40（如果你真的很固执，就改为60）。但更有可能的是，如果你不相信自己有目标，那你可能也不会相信我说的话。即便如此，花20分钟去尝试一下又有什么风险呢？
让我们通过一个关于李小龙的故事来开启今天的练习。一位武术大师向李小龙求教，希望他能传授所有关于武术的精髓。
李小龙举起了两只盛满液体的杯子，说道：“这第一只杯子象征着你目前对武术的全部理解。而这第二只杯子则代表了我对武术的全面认识。如果你想用我的知识填满你的杯子，你必须先把你杯子里的知识倒空。”
如果你想发现自己生命中真正的目标，当务之急先清空你的头脑，摒弃所有被灌输的错误理念（包括你可能毫无目标的想法）。
那么如何发现你的人生目标呢？尽管有很多方法可以做到这一点，但其中一些颇为复杂，在此给大家提供一个简单易行的方法，任何人都可以做到。
你对这个过程的态度越是开放，对结果的期待越是积极，你得到答案的速度就越快。然而，即便你对此心存疑虑，认为这是一场愚蠢且无意义的时间浪费，但只要你持之以恒，这个过程依然有效——只不过可能需要更长的时间来达到目标。
你要做的事情如下：
- 拿出一张白纸或打开一个备忘录app，你可以在上面打字（我更喜欢后者，因为它更快）。
- 在顶部写上：“我人生中真正的目标是什么？”
- 写下任何跳入你脑海的答案。它不必是一个完整的句子，简短的短语也可以。
- 重复步骤3，不断地写下答案，直到你发现某个答案让你感动到落泪。这就是你的目标。
How to Discover Your Life Purpose in About 20 Minutes
January 16, 2005
How do you discover your real purpose in life? I’m not talking about your job, your daily responsibilities, or even your long-term goals. I mean the real reason why you’re here at all — the very reason you exist.
Perhaps you’re a rather nihilistic person who doesn’t believe you have a purpose and that life has no meaning. Doesn’t matter. Not believing that you have a purpose won’t prevent you from discovering it, just as a lack of belief in gravity won’t prevent you from tripping. All that a lack of belief will do is make it take longer, so if you’re one of those people, just change the number 20 in the title of this blog entry to 40 (or 60 if you’re really stubborn). Most likely though if you don’t believe you have a purpose, then you probably won’t believe what I’m saying anyway, but even so, what’s the risk of investing an hour just in case?
Here’s a story about Bruce Lee which sets the stage for this little exercise. A master martial artist asked Bruce to teach him everything Bruce knew about martial arts. Bruce held up two cups, both filled with liquid. “The first cup,” said Bruce, “represents all of your knowledge about martial arts. The second cup represents all of my knowledge about martial arts. If you want to fill your cup with my knowledge, you must first empty your cup of your knowledge.”
If you want to discover your true purpose in life, you must first empty your mind of all the false purposes you’ve been taught (including the idea that you may have no purpose at all).
So how to discover your purpose in life? While there are many ways to do this, some of them fairly involved, here is one of the simplest that anyone can do. The more open you are to this process, and the more you expect it to work, the faster it will work for you. But not being open to it or having doubts about it or thinking it’s an entirely idiotic and meaningless waste of time won’t prevent it from working as long as you stick with it — again, it will just take longer to converge.
Here’s what to do:
Take out a blank sheet of paper or open up a word processor where you can type (I prefer the latter because it’s faster).
Write at the top, “What is my true purpose in life?”
Write an answer (any answer) that pops into your head. It doesn’t have to be a complete sentence. A short phrase is fine.
Repeat step 3 until you write the answer that makes you cry. This is your purpose.
That’s it. It doesn’t matter if you’re a counselor or an engineer or a bodybuilder. To some people this exercise will make perfect sense. To others it will seem utterly stupid. Usually it takes 15-20 minutes to clear your head of all the clutter and the social conditioning about what you think your purpose in life is. The false answers will come from your mind and your memories. But when the true answer finally arrives, it will feel like it’s coming to you from a different source entirely.
For those who are very entrenched in low-awareness living, it will take a lot longer to get all the false answers out, possibly more than an hour. But if you persist, after 100 or 200 or maybe even 500 answers, you’ll be struck by the answer that causes you to surge with emotion, the answer that breaks you. If you’ve never done this, it may very well sound silly to you. So let it seem silly, and do it anyway.
As you go through this process, some of your answers will be very similar. You may even re-list previous answers. Then you might head off on a new tangent and generate 10-20 more answers along some other theme. And that’s fine. You can list whatever answer pops into your head as long as you just keep writing.
At some point during the process (typically after about 50-100 answers), you may want to quit and just can’t see it converging. You may feel the urge to get up and make an excuse to do something else. That’s normal. Push past this resistance, and just keep writing. The feeling of resistance will eventually pass.
You may also discover a few answers that seem to give you a mini-surge of emotion, but they don’t quite make you cry — they’re just a bit off. Highlight those answers as you go along, so you can come back to them to generate new permutations. Each reflects a piece of your purpose, but individually they aren’t complete. When you start getting these kinds of answers, it just means you’re getting warm. Keep going.
It’s important to do this alone and with no interruptions. If you’re a nihilist, then feel free to start with the answer, “I don’t have a purpose,” or “Life is meaningless,” and take it from there. If you keep at it, you’ll still eventually converge.
When I did this exercise, it took me about 25 minutes, and I reached my final answer at step 106. Partial pieces of the answer (mini-surges) appeared at steps 17, 39, and 53, and then the bulk of it fell into place and was refined through steps 100-106. I felt the feeling of resistance (wanting to get up and do something else, expecting the process to fail, feeling very impatient and even irritated) around steps 55-60. At step 80 I took a 2-minute break to close my eyes, relax, clear my mind, and to focus on the intention for the answer to come to me — this was helpful as the answers I received after this break began to have greater clarity.
Here was my final answer: to live consciously and courageously, to resonate with love and compassion, to awaken the great spirits within others, and to leave this world in peace.
When you find your own unique answer to the question of why you’re here, you will feel it resonate with you deeply. The words will seem to have a special energy to you, and you will feel that energy whenever you read them.
Discovering your purpose is the easy part. The hard part is keeping it with you on a daily basis and working on yourself to the point where you become that purpose.
If you’re inclined to ask why this little process works, just put that question aside until after you’ve successfully completed it. Once you’ve done that, you’ll probably have your own answer to why it works. Most likely if you ask 10 different people why this works (people who’ve successfully completed it), you’ll get 10 different answers, all filtered through their individual belief systems, and each will contain its own reflection of truth.
Obviously, this process won’t work if you quit before convergence. I’d guesstimate that 80-90% of people should achieve convergence in less than an hour. If you’re really entrenched in your beliefs and resistant to the process, maybe it will take you 5 sessions and 3 hours, but I suspect that such people will simply quit early (like within the first 15 minutes) or won’t even attempt it at all. But if you’re drawn to read this blog (and haven’t been inclined to ban it from your life yet), then it’s doubtful you fall into this group.
Give it a shot! At the very least, you’ll learn one of two things: your true purpose in life -or- that you should unsubscribe from this blog. 😉
Update 8/8/06: Be sure to read the follow-up to this article, especially if you’re having trouble with this particular approach (there’s an alternative method you can use): The Meaning of Life: Discover Your Purpose.
https://stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/01/how-to-discover-your-life-purpose-in-about-20-minutes/
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